Wednesday, August 04, 2010






An Open Hand



If you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, can you judge a painting by its title?  I almost overlooked a key detail in this painting by Michael Frederick Halliday until I read the title; 

 The Blind Basket Maker and his First Child. 

It reminded me of the four devoted parents who presented their babies at church for a dedication ceremony last Sunday. In their limited capacity, which we all share as mums and dads, they promised to raise their children to know God, and to demonstrate their love for Him in ways their children could follow. They gave thanks to God for the blessing of their babies and acknowledged God's true ownership of families.

One phrase caught my attention during the service. "We will hold you with an open hand..." 

How does a parent hold with an 'open hand'? My instinct is to hold with one closed fist, and my other hand clamped over the first one. As a mum of two teenagers and one 'almost' teenager, I've thought about this some more since Sunday. 

Holding with an open hand is the promise to cradle until the time comes to let go. It means to provide a soft place to land but not smother. It's only when we hold our hand open that we're able to receive from God and to offer our children back to Him. I confess, this is not always easy to do when the darkness of this world hovers like a blinding fog.

How would the basket maker feel about his new role as father? Would he feel equipped to provide a home worthy of his baby? He has the means to support his family, little though his income would be. We know he's not afraid to show affection and interest in his child and I suspect a love of music will be shared before too long. Most of all, the parents in this home love one another... with all their imperfections. 

No one will ever be the perfect parent. We all come to the job with our weaknesses. Thankfully we can hold our children out to God, as we wait on Him to finish the good work He began in them... and in us.

Philipians 1:6 And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.

Do you 'hold your child with an open hand?' Is it something you find easy to do?

16 comments:

ceemee said...

Thanks for sharing this. I hope I could hold my children with an open hand.

Sr. Ann Marie said...

Beautiful reflection! Thank you. I'm not a parent but it gave me a lot to think about and to apply.

Linda said...

Wow-loved your post today and such a beautiful reflection to ponder on. Holding with an open hand can often be so difficult when the dark world hovers.
Thank you for sharing.
Have a good day.
Blessings.

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Ceemee,
We spend a lifetime holding onto them, one way or another :)
Blessings
Dorothy :)

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Sr. Ann Marie,
We all hold someone in our hand when we bring them to God in prayer. I'm sure you have lots of hearts in the palm of you hand.
Blessings
Dorothy :)

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Linda,
I've been blessed to consider this as the days have gone by this week. A hard thing to do... but one which shows faith in God.
Blessings
Dorothy :)

Lee said...

Great post as usual. Love your insights, they always seem to be pertinent to what's happening in my life. ;))

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Lee,
I'm blessed to share life with a beautiful friend like you:)
Blessings
Dotti

Nonna Beach said...

Wonderful post and so true. After building a nest for our little ones, it can be difficult to let them fly on their own but we must...it is part of God's plan that we love them forever, teach them values to live by but let them go to find their own way back to Him, praying that they succeed all the while !

Karen Lange said...

We do hold onto and let go in so many ways. Finding the balance is the challenging part. :) With His wisdom and guidance it is easier.
Blessings,
Karen

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Nonna Beach,
I'm praying with you on this one!!
Blessings
Dorothy :)

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Karen,
Parenting is a challenge I would not like to face without God's wisdom and guidance. Thanks for the encouragement.
Blessings
Dorothy :)

Wendy said...

Hi Dorothy!
I just wanted to let you know that I have given you an award!
Please come by and pick it up!
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Blessings,
Wendy
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Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Wendy,
Thanks so much - The award has been hung up with deep gratitude :)
Blessings
Dorothy

Jan said...

I made so many mistakes as a mother, though certainly there was not the insights into parenthood that there is today.

Dorothy Adamek said...

Hi Jan,
Parenting and mistakes go hand in hand. That's how we teach our kids mercy, and forgiveness - when we require it from them :)
You're right about this generation being blessed with lots of helps and networks which build up new parents.
Blessings
Dorothy :)